The Ancient Greek aphorism “Know Thyself” is exactly why you are here.
Maybe you don’t know if you are an introvert or already know the fact, but came here to know more about it. You must know that a 2/3 of the total population is of introverts; that is; 1 out of every 2 or 3 people you know! This may seem weird to you as most of the people you know are more outgoing and you may not recall many introverts you know. But the thing is, you cannot spot an introvert in just a glance. There is so much in them than just being in solitude or being quiet. Stereotypical Introvert may be the one sitting alone in a party away from the cool people. No. It is not as easy to spot an Introvert personality.
Some people even think they are not introverts because they are not “shy”, but this mind-set is not as bizarre as they think. There is no such thing as an “outgoing introvert”. Most of the people I know think that being an introvert is more than just devoting time alone. There is a huge difference between an introvert and extrovert.
Introvert Definition: To define introvert, “Introversion is a basic temperament. So, the social aspect — which is what people focus on — is really a small part of being an introvert. It affects everything in your life.” Dr. Marti Olsen Laney, psychotherapist and author of “The Introvert Advantage,” said in a Mensa discussion to define introversion.
Now, the question remains: What it really means being an “introvert”? Check on your own if any of the following signs applies to you:-
1) Parties scare you
When an invite comes, it seems as if you will have to prepare for a war. Well, not exactly a war but you really want to prepare for everything. Though, when you go to the party, you don’t really MEET people or socialize much. Meeting new people is not at all a good idea to you. You are the person who hangs on with the food bowl and that’s OKAY!
In the end, you find your battery draining and you need to refill it by cultivating some time alone. Solitude, for some, is the air they breathe.
And yea “I hate people” is your constant inner monologue after these social parties!
2) Small talk is one thing you hate the most
“Hi”, “what’s up?” are not so pleasant phrases to you.
You don’t like small talk at all. You, in fact, are a sucker for deep, thoughtful and intellectual conversations with people. Their long stories won’t bother you a bit and you think they are more engaging than those regular party chit-chats that mean nothing and seems shallow to you. You crave meaning in conversations. If deprived of that, you have no interest in their gossips. Also, you hate making the first move; you don’t know what to say to the peeps out there or how to talk. Words just don’t follow your way.
3) You often feel “alone” in a room full of people
This scenario is common to you. In a crowd, people are talking and laughing and doing things, while you are “just there”. You think you should take part in their conversations but you give up as they are doing nothing but draining you out. People think you are rude and for overcoming this misconception, you try to smile. In the end, all through the conversations, you were just smiling at them and taking in the torture. But when someone talks about your passion or your interest, you can have a full long conversation on it with that twinkle in your eyes. These kind of conversations are the ones you love to talk about; even with the people you don’t share a bond with.
4) Giving a speech in front of 500 people is less stressful than networking with them:
According to the statics, Introverts are great leaders and public speaking don’t really scare them. An estimated 40% CEO’s are Introverts. Many famous personalities like Elena Roosevelt, Rosa Parks and Mahatma Gandhi were introverts. So, you don’t shy away from spotlight but struggle with talking to people in person. Psychologists have proved that Introverts are as competent of giving a seminar on a topic as extroverts. But when it comes to communicating with those in the audience, Introverts cringe while Extroverts do it happily as they are their opposites and they get charged up while doing so. The psychology behind this is that an introvert; while giving a seminar or delivering a speech; keeps all the things prepared and they give their 100%, but when it comes to talking, they are not prepared for it and gets anxious.
5) You are extremely fascinated by art
Reading, Writing, Creating art, Music, etc. seems to be a treat for you. You enjoy practicing them as they help you refill your energy and make you happy. In fact, most Introverts are “the creative ones” in a crowd. You are an expert in observing. You feel like you see things with a different perspective than your friends and it are scientifically proven too! That makes your idols mostly creative personalities and you love their art with all your heart. Your hobbies include one of the many art forms. “Good Listener” and “Observant” are some of the tags you can recognize yourself with. These traits are very crucial in order to be successful and many Introverts also benefit from it.
6) Unexpected Calls are often left unanswered
They screen all their calls if they are not expecting it. Even if their closest friend wants to talk to them, they just don’t answer. It doesn’t mean Introverts are rude or ignorant; they call back when they think they have enough “energy” to have a conversation with someone. Unexpected calls just don’t make them happy. To them, texting is the way out. They love texting and can talk to you all day but they cringe when it comes to taking a call. They hate those long silences and often fell like they are taking too much of your time talking to you on the phone. That is why texting is a better alternative for them and they don’t feel like they are bothering others too much. So that everyone remain happy!
7) You have a small group of close friends
It’s not like Introverts “hate” people. They just aren’t comfortable much when it comes to socializing with a lot of people. They tend to have a couple or more best friends. It’s just that they choose carefully whom they should socialise to. They cherish deep relationships rather than the shallow ones and can do anything for the ones they invest their most of the time with. While, it is true that new people scare them a little, but once they past that and show their sincerity towards the relationship, they can have an amazing relationship. Other people just have to make the first move and that’s it.
8) Social Anxiety and Being Judged
Your social anxiety’s foundation is the horror of being judged. You may like people giving you attention, but you also think when they stare you, they are judging you, based on anything you are doing; so you get anxious. This anxiety is at that point that even when you are talking to really nice kind of people who love you, you still think that when you left, “that” joke on which they were laughing was about you!
9) People Pleaser
You are constantly pleasing other people even if it means displeasing yourself. You are too serious in life, but you think of others more than you think for yourself, which is horrifying sometimes. You say yes when you want to say no and say no when you want to say yes. Even when it’s not AT ALL suitable for you; you just can’t help it! You think people will think degradedly of you if you don’t do it. It’s OKAY though, you cannot please everyone in the world! You are not a jar of Nutella for God’s sake!
This is the reason why you don’t get into many fights either. You agree with the people even when they are rude and mean to you and offend you. What you do at most is that you just stop talking to them but you can’t rebuke!
10) People tag you as “Quiet”, “Boring”, and all sorts of those words
Well there are people, and their stereotypical thinking. They just can’t see through you and what you are capable of doing. They tag you with names thinking that being “quiet” is all that is in your personality. But your real friends know you. Once you get close to people, how amazing you can be! How exciting can you make your life and show them that magic of living a happy life that is the secret hidden only with you. Not largely, but you are content with your life and always look for ways to make it more amazing. And as Taylor Swift says: “Haters Gonna Hate, hate, hate, hate, hate… But I am just gonna shake shake shake! So just Shake it off and let no one fuse down your spark!
These points may not all be relevant to your personality and maybe you have some different traits hidden too. But if you can relate to more than five points from this post, then my dear, you are a celebrated Introvert! Be Proud! Feel free to talk about it on the comments below! Stay Positive. Good luck.
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