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Be Photogenic… 25 Hacks To Ace A Perfect Picture Click

With the trending phones and the urge to have good display pictures for social media websites, all of us are somehow becoming picture freaks. Well that’s fun too, isn’t it? Whether it be selfies, groupfies, snap chats or solos we always try to look our best. However, it isn’t that easy to ace the perfect click which is an obvious reason that behind one profile picture there are 99 or more non-satisfying pictures which deserves an immediate delete. In situation like such, we usually wonder what all those models and magazine queens do to portrait their best in every picture. Well, this need not to remain a secret anymore. We reveal to you some mind-blowing tricks to get the perfect shot in one go; all you would need to do is to read and understand them carefully and then apply while you click your next photo. If you note down these tricks and follow them then we can assure you that next time when you will get ready and look the most beautiful these pictures won’t be able to ditch you by not displaying the same.

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  1. If your eyes are sensitive and you often blink your eyes frequently while taking a picture which ruins the click, then to prevent this just shut your eyes close exactly before the click then open your eyes slowly and immediately click the picture. This will ensure that your beautiful eye gets captured in the shot perfectly and doesn’t give a half asleep look.
  2. While we try to experiment with the angles of the camera to get a stunning picture, he double chin often restricts the creativity, thus to make sure your double chin doesn’t show up; just keep your neck elongated and stretch your chin a bit forward, also try to click pictures from a relatively higher level to your face this will help to enhance the look of your face bones and avoid double chin.
  3. Patchy and pale makeup can also lead to imperfect pictures, thus make sure to put up makeup that matches your skin and blends well in your skin.
  4. Always focus on the beauty of your eyes. To any still image eyes are the focal points so the deeper and bigger your eyes look in the picture the more mesmerizing the picture will look. Therefore decorate your eyes beautifully with a good quality mascara, kohl and eyeliner.
  5. If you will assess the best pictures of yours who would be noticing some pattern, which means that there would surely be an angle from where your picture looks much better than from others. Attempt to replicate those angles and possess along with some creativity to get some great shots.
  6. As it is said Stratum always works thus one prominent way to ensure a flawless grin on your face while you pose for the perfect picture is that while you smile place your tongue at the back of your teeth, try it!
  7. Do not ever underestimate your features specially your eyebrows, at times the density of the eyebrow sharpens the features and appears better in images.
  8. Hair, the most important aspect to be looked upon because they have both the tendency and audacity to destroy any picture. Therefore make sure your hair look shiny and are well untangled before you click the picture.
  9. Red eyes that sometimes get reflected in pictures make you look no less than a ell dressed monster, but don’t worry we have a trick to avoid this. What you can do is look straight to the light exactly before you face the camera. You might be wondering how will it help, right? The light will help your pupil shrink, so when the photo will be clicked the flash wouldn’t reflect in your eyes.
  10. Another amazing way to make your eyes look wider and fresh is to pour a few drops of Visine in your eyes.
  11. It sometime you get caught into a sudden photo session, then to get immediate glow on your face, take a napkin or tissue and cleanse your face with it. After the cleansing is done to get a glowing, rosy red appearance on your cheeks just lightly pinch the area of your cheek bones.
  12. We suggest you to apply light pink blush on your bones of cheeks. This color variance will get a better texture to the skin and add dimensions to it.
  13. Experiment with the angles you click your photo in, instead of trying the hit and trial method notice which profile is the best when it comes to capturing and pose accordingly.
  14. If your problem is that your body looks wide and broad in pictures, trying this cliché pose can make you appear thinner and leaner. To get into this pose your body should be angled sideways with face facing the camera straight and the hands should be place on the hips.
  15. No, where we recommend you light soft blush oh cheeks to appear better on the photo, on the other hand we would strictly say no to put on something shimmery. It is because even a pinch of shimmer on the face can appear to be a lot in pictures, so if you use a shimmer ace powder or concealer either be very sure of how much and in what ways otherwise don’t do it or you will overdo it instead give a matte look to the base and contour sharp bones like the nose bridge and temples with highlighters of soft sheen.
  16. However, not on the face but a touch of shimmer of soft sheen under your neck will help you portray a better and smooth complexion.
  17. Not just your face, posture, camera angles etc. defines the beauty of a picture, but a background plays an important role too. So while opting a background choose the lighter one, say a white wall for an instance. It is because if the background is light the focus gets onto the ace and it helps your face look bright and glowing.
  18. Do not go with dark lip color shades instead choose the brighter ones. The reason behind this theory is that dark lip colors have belittling impact on lips and doesn’t make them outstand therefore opting bright and beautiful colors would be a better option.
  19. If you think that you are not that photogenic like others are, then it is just your misconception. Because people who feel that they do not fit into photographs tend to click lesser photographs and that’s why they could not explore all the dimensions, angles and the best profile of their faces. Therefore begin it and in the starting let the photographer take numerous pictures, notice the pattern among them, see what can be corrected and pose again, soon you will be better than a professional.
  20. Another cliché note is that the pictures taken from higher angles are more likely to look good that the one taken from angles below your face level. Consider this old school trick to crack the code to a mesmerizing picture.
  21. While you pose for a picture, lights around you do matter. So if there is direct source of light we would suggest you not to stand facing towards it or even underneath it because it will lead to formation of unearthly shadows on your face. But if you find a natural source of light such as sunlight it will really make your face shine and help you hack an aced photograph.
  22. Holding a beautiful property such as flowers in hands and posing along with it can help you attain a better and relaxed posture leading to more beautiful appearance in pictures.
  23. To add a gleam to your eyes, focus your eyes to a source of light, make sure not too bright one but a subtle small source of light such as a lamp. This will make your eyes lit up adding a flattering sparkle.
  24. Be simple yet stylish while clicking any pose as Simplicity displays beauty at its best. For a perfect pose, it is important your hair to look equally amazing. So, for this you can apply dry oil or a nice pomatum with light hands and give a distinct look to yourself.
  25. Undoubtedly, a smile looks so fake when you make it appear by saying ‘cheese’, so let go off this age old method and instead actually joke around with the photographer this will help you get that natural, pretty and spellbinding smile.

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So here you go!! Get up and try a few tricks among them. We hope that they will help you for sure and next time when you get a perfect display picture, it will definitely remind you of us.

Stay beautiful, look beautiful. Happy clicking!

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Are You An Introvert?

The Ancient Greek aphorism “Know Thyself” is exactly why you are here.

Maybe you don’t know if you are an introvert or already know the fact, but came here to know more about it. You must know that a 2/3 of the total population is of introverts; that is; 1 out of every 2 or 3 people you know! This may seem weird to you as most of the people you know are more outgoing and you may not recall many introverts you know. But the thing is, you cannot spot an introvert in just a glance. There is so much in them than just being in solitude or being quiet.  Stereotypical Introvert may be the one sitting alone in a party away from the cool people. No. It is not as easy to spot an Introvert personality.

Some people even think they are not introverts because they are not “shy”, but this mind-set is not as bizarre as they think. There is no such thing as an “outgoing introvert”. Most of the people I know think that being an introvert is more than just devoting time alone. There is a huge difference between an introvert and extrovert.

Introvert Definition: To define introvert, “Introversion is a basic temperament. So, the social aspect — which is what people focus on — is really a small part of being an introvert. It affects everything in your life.”  Dr. Marti Olsen Laney, psychotherapist and author of “The Introvert Advantage,” said in a Mensa discussion to define introversion.

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Now, the question remains: What it really means being an “introvert”? Check on your own if any of the following signs applies to you:-

 

1) Parties scare you

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When an invite comes, it seems as if you will have to prepare for a war. Well, not exactly a war but you really want to prepare for everything. Though, when you go to the party, you don’t really MEET people or socialize much. Meeting new people is not at all a good idea to you. You are the person who hangs on with the food bowl and that’s OKAY!

In the end, you find your battery draining and you need to refill it by cultivating some time alone. Solitude, for some, is the air they breathe.

And yea “I hate people” is your constant inner monologue after these social parties!

2) Small talk is one thing you hate the most

 

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“Hi”, “what’s up?” are not so pleasant phrases to you.

You don’t like small talk at all. You, in fact, are a sucker for deep, thoughtful and intellectual conversations with people. Their long stories won’t bother you a bit and you think they are more engaging than those regular party chit-chats that mean nothing and seems shallow to you. You crave meaning in conversations. If deprived of that, you have no interest in their gossips. Also, you hate making the first move; you don’t know what to say to the peeps out there or how to talk. Words just don’t follow your way.

3) You often feel “alone” in a room full of people

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This scenario is common to you. In a crowd, people are talking and laughing and doing things, while you are “just there”. You think you should take part in their conversations but you give up as they are doing nothing but draining you out. People think you are rude and for overcoming this misconception, you try to smile. In the end, all through the conversations, you were just smiling at them and taking in the torture. But when someone talks about your passion or your interest, you can have a full long conversation on it with that twinkle in your eyes. These kind of conversations are the ones you love to talk about; even with the people you don’t share a bond with.

4) Giving a speech in front of 500 people is less stressful than networking with them:

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According to the statics, Introverts are great leaders and public speaking don’t really scare them. An estimated 40% CEO’s are Introverts. Many famous personalities like Elena Roosevelt, Rosa Parks and Mahatma Gandhi were introverts. So, you don’t shy away from spotlight but struggle with talking to people in person. Psychologists have proved that Introverts are as competent of giving a seminar on a topic as extroverts. But when it comes to communicating with those in the audience, Introverts cringe while Extroverts do it happily as they are their opposites and they get charged up while doing so. The psychology behind this is that an introvert; while giving a seminar or delivering a speech; keeps all the things prepared and they give their 100%, but when it comes to talking, they are not prepared for it and gets anxious.

5) You are extremely fascinated by art

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Reading, Writing, Creating art, Music, etc. seems to be a treat for you. You enjoy practicing them as they help you refill your energy and make you happy. In fact, most Introverts are “the creative ones” in a crowd. You are an expert in observing. You feel like you see things with a different perspective than your friends and it are scientifically proven too! That makes your idols mostly creative personalities and you love their art with all your heart. Your hobbies include one of the many art forms. “Good Listener” and “Observant” are some of the tags you can recognize yourself with. These traits are very crucial in order to be successful and many Introverts also benefit from it.

6) Unexpected Calls are often left unanswered

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They screen all their calls if they are not expecting it. Even if their closest friend wants to talk to them, they just don’t answer. It doesn’t mean Introverts are rude or ignorant; they call back when they think they have enough “energy” to have a conversation with someone. Unexpected calls just don’t make them happy. To them, texting is the way out. They love texting and can talk to you all day but they cringe when it comes to taking a call. They hate those long silences and often fell like they are taking too much of your time talking to you on the phone. That is why texting is a better alternative for them and they don’t feel like they are bothering others too much. So that everyone remain happy!

7) You have a small group of close friends

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It’s not like Introverts “hate” people. They just aren’t comfortable much when it comes to socializing with a lot of people. They tend to have a couple or more best friends. It’s just that they choose carefully whom they should socialise to. They cherish deep relationships rather than the shallow ones and can do anything for the ones they invest their most of the time with. While, it is true that new people scare them a little, but once they past that and show their sincerity towards the relationship, they can have an amazing relationship.  Other people just have to make the first move and that’s it.

8) Social Anxiety and Being Judged

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Your social anxiety’s foundation is the horror of being judged. You may like people giving you attention, but you also think when they stare you, they are judging you, based on anything you are doing; so you get anxious. This anxiety is at that point that even when you are talking to really nice kind of people who love you, you still think that when you left, “that” joke on which they were laughing was about you!

9) People Pleaser

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You are constantly pleasing other people even if it means displeasing yourself. You are too serious in life, but you think of others more than you think for yourself, which is horrifying sometimes. You say yes when you want to say no and say no when you want to say yes. Even when it’s not AT ALL suitable for you; you just can’t help it! You think people will think degradedly of you if you don’t do it. It’s OKAY though, you cannot please everyone in the world! You are not a jar of Nutella for God’s sake!

This is the reason why you don’t get into many fights either. You agree with the people even when they are rude and mean to you and offend you. What you do at most is that you just stop talking to them but you can’t rebuke!

10) People tag you as “Quiet”, “Boring”, and all sorts of those words

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Well there are people, and their stereotypical thinking. They just can’t see through you and what you are capable of doing. They tag you with names thinking that being “quiet” is all that is in your personality. But your real friends know you. Once you get close to people, how amazing you can be! How exciting can you make your life and show them that magic of living a happy life that is the secret hidden only with you. Not largely, but you are content with your life and always look for ways to make it more amazing. And as Taylor Swift says: “Haters Gonna Hate, hate, hate, hate, hate… But I am just gonna shake shake shake! So just Shake it off and let no one fuse down your spark!

These points may not all be relevant to your personality and maybe you have some different traits hidden too. But if you can relate to more than five points from this post, then my dear, you are a celebrated Introvert! Be Proud! Feel free to talk about it on the comments below! Stay Positive. Good luck.

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Precautions For A Safe And Sound ‘DIWALI’ For Your Child

Diwali is an auspicious and the most celebrated festival of India. Every year people of all the age groups excitingly wait for this beautiful occasion in order to enjoy with their families and friends. Ladies look forward to shop beautiful clothes and decorative items so that they can look their best and make their houses look equally beautiful. Alongside, on one hand where the elders of the family are more inclined towards the worship of goddess Lakshmi and buying gold coins and ornaments made up of gold and similarly on the other hand, the main attractions for children are decorative lightings and different crackers. However, this mode of celebration can at times also turn to be hazardous. You must be thinking how. There are varieties of crackers and busters that are not even legally allowed in some parts of the country but still sold in the market. If not guided properly and taken care of, then bursting these crackers can cause serious burns and injuries which might turn your happy Diwali into a sad one. No one would ever wish so. Nevertheless, the best cure is to take safety measures and related precautions. Thereby, we would like to highlight a few mandatory preventions which should be considered this Diwali as the top most priority. These will prevent your kid from any kind of mishap hence ensuring a safe, secured and a prosperous Diwali for your beloved family, children and one and all around you.

  • AVOID WEARING SYNTHETIC CLOTHES:

Synthetic clothes have the tendency to catch fire very easily. Therefore, it is advocated to be very careful with your clothes while burning the crackers. Hence, we suggest that both; elders and children both, should completely avoid wearing synthetic or nylon clothes on the day of Diwali, especially while bursting crackers. It is better to be safe than taking any sort of risks.

  • ALWAYS BE IN SUPERVISION:

The excitement in children is at its height on the day of Diwali and they do not miss the chance to show off their daredevilry moves like: trying to burn the cracker on hand. This is nothing more than fun to them because they don’t even imagine the dangerous consequence that might occur. But the truth is that, this urge to be edgy and showing off in front of friends usually leads to some serious injuries and accidents. Therefore, an adult should always be in supervision to make sure that no such unfortunate event occurs. After all, nothing is more important than the safety of kids.

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  • STAY AWAY FROM UNSAFE CRACKERS:

Crackers like rockets and busters have always been kids’ favorite and this is because of the patterns they form and the effects they show in the sky. Undoubtedly, they are really attractive. But at the same time they can be very risky to handle too because if they do not land at any safe place, any person or animal present there might have to face the consequence. So, why to burst such crackers which might harm anyone and spoil their festival? Think about it.

  • DEFLECT BURSTING CRACKERS IN HERDED PLACES:

It is not necessary that everyone around you would like to burst crackers. Thus, bursting crackers in crowded places can lead to their inconvenience. At times, this might lead to a few injuries as well. Hence, bursting crackers should be restricted in places where people are roaming around or gather frequently such as parking lots, main entrances, busy roads etc. Don’t do anything such that harms anyone knowingly or unknowingly. So, take care of everyone even while your heart is filled with fun and frolic.

  • RESTRICT YOUR CHILDREN FROM GOING ON TO TERRACE:

Children love to go on terrace to watch the colorful city and after-effects of crackers but terrace can be a risky area to be at, on the day of Diwali. The reason behind this is because the crackers such as rockets often end up landing on roofs or terraces. Your child’s presence at wrong place in wrong time can lead to serious accidents. After all, we never know when unluckiness is following us. Thus, it is better to stay safe and secure and so restrict your little ones from going onto terrace.

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  • WEAR QUALITATIVE SHOES

Most of the crackers are burned on ground. So, ignorance in such situations can leads to burns on your child’s feet because kids are so over whelmed with joy that they hardly care about anything. Thus, to prevent occurrence of such a situation it would be better to opt for a good quality foot wear for your child. Try to completely avoid foot wears that only partly cover their feet such a mojris or sandals instead opt for shoes that can fully cover their feet and protect them. A little care can save our beloved from major harm.

  • KEEP FIRST AID READY

Though the proverb, ‘Precaution is better than cure’ fits the best on the occasion of Diwali but at times when precaution is overheard or not taken on time, then cure is needed. In order to overcome such situations be prepared with safety measures. Always keep ice, bandages and burn relief creams ready in the first aid box so that god forbids, if any kind of mishap occurs we can reduce its effect by applying them immediately on the affected area. Besides this, also keep a bucket of water or sand ready. So that if anything catches fire; it could be poured upon to restrain it from spreading more and leaving its devastating effect.

We cannot always control the consequences of certain situations. But for sure, we can take precautions to minimize their probability of occurring; just by taking a few preventive measures. However, we sincerely hope that your family and your children wouldn’t need to suffer any such mishap and so thought to share this. Wish you ‘A very Happy & Safe Diwali’. Enjoy the fullest but be safe and secure!

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How To Overcome Shyness In Your Child?

Most importantly, as parents you need to understand this fact that being shy for child is completely normal and nothing like that needs to be worried on. You should definitely put some sincere efforts to help them come out of their shy shell but in such a way that they don’t even come to know that there were ever struggling with this. The reason behind shyness in kids is generally their extreme innocence due to which they do not know how to behave or react in new environment or with new people. They are not that quick and smart enough at that age of theirs to relate things with any past meetings and behave in the correct way. So, the problem is not that big as you are thinking and if you step up in the right way, the solution can also be attained quickly. Shy nature in kids is just a phase, and if taken care of on time it’s not a big deal at all. Some of the best ways which can help your shy kid gain back their confidence could be some of these which will definitely help in building up lot of confidence. Creating those situations in advance as dummy ones and divulging him or her to them under your counseling and direction is the excellent way. The more guidance he or she gets, the extra understanding he or she will develop and this will further enhance his ability to handle any new circumstances easily.

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According to child expert advice, it is suggested from their end that kids with shy attitude should be handled very smartly. Before they are about to enter any new situation or meet any new person, sharing some prior details regarding them is an effective way. When they are meeting any new person, you can introduce them earlier to their meet by showing some happy photos with them, explaining your relation with them and you can even share some good memories you had with them. This in return will make your kids familiar to them even if they meet that new person for the first time. If there is any situation that he is new to, you can brief out some details regarding it and even try reasoning with them. Though, the technique of reason works very well for some kids but for few, it is not a good idea because they are over driven by emotions. Try some of the below given ideas which will surely help in overcoming shyness and gaining confidence in your child:

  1. Begin with small things like: If you are going for purchasing to any store, let your kid pay to the cash counter and teach him/her to how to count money before giving, signing the receipt, checking the items etc. Correct your kid softly, if mistaken. In case if you are going for lunch or dinner to any hotel, ask your kid to place the order to the waiter. So, try some of such methods which boost the inner confidence of your kid. Not only this, such ideas also make them feel that they are equally important and initiate the feeling of self reliance.
  2. Let them feel comfortable at social gatherings. Shy children often surround their parents or hide besides them and you as a parent initiate them when they do so. Instead, stop doing the same and give him his own space. Introduce them to the kids of your relatives and make them friends. Allow them to attend their friend’s birthday party alone meaning thereby drop them, stay for a while and when you see him or her busy in some fun filled activities, let him go on and leave.
  3. Children spend ample time in school and so it is equally important for them to overcome their shyness there too. As a parent you can understand this issue of your kid easily but everyone cannot. So, the best idea could be to interact personally with their teachers and share their shy nature. You can request teachers to increase their involvement in more of group activities, projects and games. This will help the child to have a comfortable environment in the school by having friends, initiating helping nature and discussing and exploring new ideas.
  4. As per study, it has been noticed that there are two major activities that can formulate the level of confidence and suppress their shy nature most efficaciously. They are dramatic play and games done in the form of group activities. Both of these activities have all the capabilities to enhance their physical power, mental power and build self assurance. In dramas, they learn to speak publicly and represent themselves in a confident manner and while playing games, their hidden talent is revealed and their urge to win also makes them work harder. You never know which such activities can make you child a future star.
  5. Spend some qualitative time with your kid and understand them deeply. See if there is anything that is worrying your kid and if yes; be friendly enough to share the same. Do not give him any such feeling which makes him or her bad about oneself; instead try such ways that can actually help in overcoming his shyness.
  6. A shy kid is not good at making friends as well and that is because of his shyness. So, being a parent it is your responsibility to make him learn how to make friends. You take a step forward and show him how to enter the playground, introduce to them and make them friends, request them to join him in his game. Next time, encourage him to do it himself.
  7. Become the role model of your child and teach them how to take a stand for oneself in different social situations like: teasing, bullying etc. You can even do role plays of such situations and make them understand so that whenever he or she faces this type of situation can handle it very well on his own.
  8. Never tag mark your child as “he is shy” or “she is shy” especially before others else this won’t let him overcome his fear and hesitation. In addition, he won’t be able to share a comfort zone with you (as a parent) as well and will develop a feeling of hatred and frustration.
  9. Initiate more and more opportunities for your kid to interact socially on regular basis so that slowly and gradually he/she will be able to make a space outside his shy shell. Don’t try to do everything at one shot because it is not a miracle that will happen suddenly. Slowly & gradually, make efforts and cherish the results soon.
  10. Last but not the least; make it a point, not to force him to do anything compulsorily else he will do it half heartedly or might result to increase in irritation and frustration in his attitude. Your job as a parent should be to become a friend of your kid not a Hitler.

 

 

How To Handle Behavioral Problems Of Children ?

The judgment of good and bad behavior of a child differs from one parent to the other. On one hand where one parent considers any particular behavior to be inappropriate, on the other hand the same behavior might not appear that way to the other one. In the similar way, the reaction of the parents towards the behavior of their kids also varies from one parent to another. For example: Some are extra sweet, some are very strict, few of them can never see tears in their child’s eye and some are really patient to handle even the most naughty kid. The character of the child also add lot of difference to the whole situation, as in, few kids react to happiness by being excess noisy while others follow a ‘hardly care’ attitude. The circumstances directly impact the attitude of the children, so every parent should be extra careful and should handle the behavioral problems with much of ease. At times, parents are not able to understand the change in the behavior of a child and so the problem becomes more complicated. If we discuss about the reasons about the behavioral changes in a child, there could be many like:

  • Even small changes could matter for them a lot which can be any of these; welcome of a new member in the family, changing house, birth of a new baby, beginning any sort of business from home etc.
  • At times the behavioral issues could be because of you as a parent. Let’s take an example: If you have given chocolates to your baby to keep quiet while you were busy purchasing at any store, he/she will expect the same every time and if you do not react the same way, the change in behavior is but normal.
  • Children notice the things very sharply and react to them instantly. If there is any sort of problem in your family or your husband wife relationship is going through any personal issues, little angel might take no time to turn devil. In such a situation neither blame the child nor yourself, rather be patient enough to tackle your child with love and care.
  • Peculiarly observe as to why your child is turning aggressive, unhappy, and too silent or any sort of strange behavior. Such a reaction could be due to excess tiredness, hunger, lack of sleep, frustration, boredom, hurt etc.
  • Behavioral problem could also be a result of attracting your attention. He/she might be lacking your company and want to spend time with you. So, do think if you are giving ample time to him or her, else it is obvious for your child to react negatively.
  • Even if the kids are slightly mature then one of the reasons for their behavior issue could be comparison with other kids. Kids often have the feeling that the so called child has that toy and he/she doesn’t. It could be any other thing apart from toy as well. This could make them frustrated and angry and so the reactions are obvious.

Before coming to any conclusion about your child’s behavior, first understand the reason behind it because no kid reacts unnecessarily and above all, they are not mature enough to handle any such situations. Little children are soft at heart and you never know what attitude of yours or anyone else in the family can actually hurt them. Being a parent you need to understand that it is just one of phases of life which they will overcome, one they grow up and start understanding things. Those behavioral problems are to be worried which are impacting the life of the people around you. Do not straight away take any action in order to prove that you are a caring parent instead deal with it smartly and in such a way that it does not encroach the heart of the little one. There are certain effective ways that will help you to deal with behavioral problems of the child easily and calmly:

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  1. Be a smart parent

Though you know very well that you are a parent but in such situations where child is behaving awkwardly, you might forget this fact and behave like them, which are not justified at all. So, always remember that you are parent and no one can handle any situation in regard to your child better than you. Do not become a child yourself while dealing with your kid else situations might turn worst and end up to unnecessary arguments. Hence avoid all this completely and be a smart parent.

  1. Be Confident & React in the Correct Way

Whatever you do as a parent should be correct for your child and the whole family too. Think from the perspective of your kid before coming to any conclusion, be confident that you will do best for your child and react in the correct way. After all, the positive attitude can break even the hardest stone hindering one’s way so here it is just you and your child.

  1. Be Logical & Consistent

Children are deep observers, so be logical and consistent in whatever you speak. Do not react in different ways on same situations (if any similar situations occur simultaneously). Your words and actions should not vary each other else kids are smart enough to notice you. If this happens, they might get more confused and won’t trust you in future which might change their behavior negatively.

  1. Don’t Quit before Succeeding

If you have decided to help your child to overcome with his behavior problems, do as best as you can and do not give up or quit the mission till you get success. Kids take time to understand and efforts take time to show results. You can take the help of your partner or anyone close to you in the family for better and quick result. Even consulting your child’s health doctor can help you a lot.

  1. Speak to Your Kid

Kids are so soft and gentle at heart that one can easily capture it with few simple tricks. Whenever you see your child reacting inappropriately, speak to him/her and ask the reason of why he or she is doing so, rather than making wrong suppositions. Even if your kid is too small to talk and express, still he/she ill have their own way of expressing it. All you need is to be a humble and patience filled parent to listen and understand. This will bring your child more close to you and next time if they go through any such problem; they prefer speaking to you directly and solving their confusions within seconds instead of reacting through bad behavior. Isn’t this a great idea and solves your problem forever?

  1. Never Over React

Kids are too small to understand and react to any situation and so is the cause of behavioral problems. At times the attitude of the child becomes too annoying and displeasing, and so it becomes to control your temper too as a parent. But as a parent it is advisable to you, to never over react on such situations. Your over reaction might worse the situations more and children will develop a feeling of hatred and dislike for you which is no good at all. Hence, try to calm down your child and make him or her busy in other activities so that his/her mind is diverted. Later, you can cool down your mind by talking and discussing it with other parents who are a good friend of yours. Mind you, please do not do any discussion before your child.

  1. Appreciate & Award

On one hand, where you need to have lot of patience as a parent for the incompatible behavior of your child similarly on the other hand, it is your duty as a parent to appreciate and award when your child behaves mannerly. Show them your pleased response on their good behavior by complementing them like:” Well done on completing your home work”, “You are such a good girl/boy that you helped mom by keeping your toys back in the place” etc. The appreciation can be in any simple form which you know that he/she will love and make him/her happy. You can award them by cooking their favorite food or taking them out for ice cream etc. All these ways helps a lot in enhancing the personality of a child along with behavior.

  1. Strictly Avoid Using Hands on Kids (slapping)

Whatever may be the situation, it is just not right to slap or hit the kids in any way. Even if you do so, the kids might stop from doing that particular thing but will leave a negative impact on them. Remember, parents who treat their kids aggressively are sure to turn more aggressive in nature. There are many other ways to warn kids apart from slapping. If you as a parent set hitting as an example to make your kids behave, this means that they will also learn that hitting is no wrong act to do to any one which is actually dangerous.

  1. Express Yourself in a Positive Way

The more positive you are towards your kids, the more positivity your kids will also gain. From behavior to thoughts, everything you do in a positive will surely leave a positive impact on them. It has been noticed that when the child’s behavior is tough to tackle, the good things he/she do, are generally neglected. This is not right at all. Always notice each and every action of your kids. Let’s take for example: If children do well then praise them by clapping, hugging or kissing, if they assist you with any sort of help, then always say ‘Thank you’ to them and in case if you had shown some anger by chance, then do apologize and say them ‘Sorry’ and there are many more such ways which can make them happy at heart. All such expressible acts of a parent never need a reason but are very helpful while dealing with child behavioral problems. They also learn all such good habits automatically. Also, you need not to ever bribe a child for motivating to do well. This means that, only reward them when they have done what they were asked to do but not before that. Remember, it is a reward for their good work not a bribe to make them do forcefully.

  1. Explore the Interest Era of a Child:

The interest field and likings of a child deviates from one child to other. So, explore the amusive activities of your child and pull sometime out, of your busy schedule in order to accompany them in things like: dancing, swimming, karate classes, singing, playing, going to park etc. Every time the cost of happiness should not be measured in terms of money. Your company makes them feel that their happiness is yours happiness too and they too will care about the things that make you happy. This will also make them understand that it is so much fun to be with a happy parent than an angry one so better not to do any such thing that makes their parent angry.

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  1. Never Make Comparisons:

This is something that many children hate. There are many parents who love making comparison of their child with that of others whether in terms of studies, clothes, attitude etc thinking that through this, they can gear up their child but it actually doesn’t work and instead the outcome is negative. Do not ever make comparisons among children because this initiates the feeling of irritation, thwarting and defeat in them which leads to aggression and frustration in their attitude. They feel themselves as looser and give up before trying because they know that at the end of the day their work won’t be appreciated but will be compared. Being a parent you should encourage your child and motivate him/her in every possible way. Such an attitude will fill them with rigor and positive attitude.

So, in order to deal with child’s behavioral problems, you need to change as a parent first and then only the change in the behavior of your child is possible. Above given were some of the major changes that you need to bring as a parent to deal with your child’s little behavioral problems and in addition to these, you can also make slight changes in your daily activities also like:

  • Have a good co-ordination between you and your partner and never interfere each other when one is caring the child in his or her own way. Even if there is something that one needs to correct the other one for, do not do it before your child, and instead have a cool conversation in separate. After all, a healthy environment in a family makes the child also healthy; physically & mentally.
  • Never get into any arguments with your kid because soon it will become a habit and you won’t even come to know. Understand the fact that your kid is too small to get into any discussion and it will take you nowhere. So, leave the matter then and there and let the situation calm down. Your child will automatically get busy in other works and forget the rest.
  • Don’t be too instructive rather be explanatory. Little kids are still at learning age and will take time to understand and follow what you say instantly. So, give them their own space and explain every petty thing so that they can understand well.
  • At times, the behavioral problems of kids are also due to lots of expectations of parents. Hence do not expect a lot from them because they are too small to be perfect in everything and even you are not still.
  • Share your thoughts and feelings with your partner or any dear friends so that they can also help you in their own ways and you can also feel fine after sharing your views with them.

The fact is that any sort of behavioral problem in a child is not permanent. Most of them are age-specific and everything changes with the passage of time when a child grows up and becomes mature gradually. Everyone as a parent needs lots of patience and love to handle them with care. Kids are little and delicate flowers of our garden, so take the best care of them. Neither bee too harsh nor be too lenient to them. Don’t dream of changing every behavioral problem of your child at one shot, pick one or two simultaneously and work on them patiently and once you succeed then only proceed further. Your sincere support and love can change them to overcome any behavioral issue and improve them, so why not to give our hundred percent to them! There is no one better than parents who can thing best about their kids and so you are too. In the words of James Lehman, “Start where your child is and coach them forward.” Meaning thereby, acknowledge the strengths of your child, build them strong, limit your expectations and build your trust towards them and then see what an amazing person your child turns up to be!

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