It can seem so hard sometimes to keep your relationship from feeling a bit stale after a while, but there are many things you can do to keep the flame alive and ensure your relationship is as healthy and happy as it can be. Check out a few of our top tips below and see how they can help you today.
Happy you, happy us
There is no way to maintain a happy and healthy relationship if you never take care of yourself as well as your partner. Try taking a bit of time for you, and ensure that your partner does too, as well as spending quality time together. A nice long bath, a walk or sitting down to binge your secret favourite terrible TV programme can leave you feeling more relaxed and happy which will then leave you feeling better in your relationship too.
Try something new
Just because the other person is the same it doesn’t mean that everything else has to be. You don’t have to be the most adventurous couple or jump straight into BDSM or anything that you aren’t ready for, but there are lots of options out there if you want to give something a go. Trying out something new, from positions and locations to a trip to an adult toy store and even just different cuisines or bars can really liven things up and keep things fresh and hot. The key is to keep an open mind and be honest with each other about what you do and don’t want and go from there.
Make real time for each other
We don’t just mean the two hours that you spent watching a movie and both on your phones the entire time without a word exchanged but actual time, ideally without any phones at all. If you find it a bit tricky to really get that one on one time in your usual lives, with work, kids, dogs or whatever it is you have going on, try scheduling a date night once a week or whenever you can and stick to it. Take it in turns to plan where you will go and what you will do, as long as there is time to chat, get out any issues or irritants that have been building and really focus on why you are together.
Ask for honesty and give it back
If your long term relationship is going to stay happy it is important to be honest with each other. Not only about the other person and how they make you feel or the things they do but also about the other people or influences in your life that have an impact. You shouldn’t expect you or your partner to be psychic, but you should try to be in tune with how you are each feeling and you should tell each other as well. You are in this together and should act like it without letting resentment build.
At the end of the day time and effort are needed to keep any relationship going strong and well, particularly a long term one. Make sure you put in that effort for yourself and your partner and see how forever young you can be.
